Men's body language often plays a much larger role than the words themselves. Remember the era of silent films. The actors did a great job without long dialogues in order to cheer up the viewer or make him shed more than one tear.
A look, sexual gestures, facial expressions or even body position - all this can convey your intentions, emotions and inner state better than any words.
The proof is provided by the observations of the American psychologist Albert Meyerabian, who divided the perception of the interlocutor into three groups, giving each a percentage of significance.
1) Body language - 55% 2) Delivery of words (intonation, timbre) - 38% 3) Meaning of what was said - 7%
As you can see, if you speak complete nonsense in a conversation with a man, but do it beautifully and sophisticatedly, you can make a very good impression. As many as 93% of his thoughts will be in the spirit of “she’s okay” and “what a nice girl.”
But now we will not comprehend the art of charming facial expressions and non-verbal gestures. Instead, we will analyze male body language, namely, we will determine the signs of his love or extreme interest in you.
Why Nonverbal Signs Say More Than Words
Gestures and facial expressions are nonverbal signals. A person can perfectly control the words spoken, create the correct intonation and make a facial expression appropriate to the occasion. But it is very difficult to completely control your behavior, and some reactions, for example, dilation of the pupils, are completely impossible.
Many gestures are so “ingrained” into consciousness that they are carried out instantly in response to a specific stimulus.
American psychologist A. Meyerabian conducted a series of studies in which he found that a person receives only 7% of information from the meaning of words spoken by the interlocutor, 38% comes from intonation and timbre, and the remaining 55% is conveyed by the body.
Facial expressions
Facial expressions closely border on visual contact, so pay close attention to the man’s face when you are in his field of vision. The eyebrows are the first to “give up”! In a calm state, they are unshakable, however, having caught a pretty woman, they begin to fly uncontrollably up and down, displaying their inner experiences. If a man deliberately raises one eyebrow, this gesture demonstrates deep interest in the girl!
Falling in love is clearly indicated by a man’s olfactory organ. Our nose is quite sensitive, so when we are nervous, excited, or emotionally uplifted, we breathe more often, more intensely, and deeper. At the same time, the nostrils flare, as if instead of oxygen, a person in love inhales hot air! At the same time, the lips also treacherously dry out, which is why men in love often have to lick them with their tongues. This gesture speaks of a secret desire to kiss a pretty person. We are accustomed to the fact that only women do this in attempts to seduce a man, but this is a common physiological need in the presence of the object of adoration.
And, of course, a smile! She begins to play on the lips from the first second the beloved woman enters the man’s horizons and does not go away until he sees her. Moreover, it appears involuntarily. A man may notice this and change his facial expression, but over time it treacherously resurfaces. A smile, as a rule, is sincere, wide, and kind.
Please note: if a man starts smiling from the first word you say (even if it’s not addressed to him), this is a gesture of sincere sympathy! So intuitively he wants to seem more attractive to you!
Gestures that speak only of a friendly relationship between a man and a woman
A guy who feels friendly impulses towards a girl, when meeting or saying goodbye, would rather pat her on the shoulder than hug or kiss her on the cheek, because he does not feel the need for more intimate contact.
When exiting a vehicle or in another similar situation, the young man does not give her his hand for support, unless he is really well-mannered and shows similar attention to all representatives of the opposite sex by default.
When walking with a girlfriend, a man often walks ahead at some distance.
Moving lower
Although a man's head can best tell us about secret sympathy or love, the rest of the body also has several curious manifestations of nascent feelings.
1) Shoulders and chest
A technique that is popular not only among people but also among many animals, especially birds. Remember how peacocks, roosters or parrots inflate their chests in order to appear larger and more dangerous in the eyes of their enemies and, above all, females.
Do you think men have come far from such tricks? A protruding chest, a straight back and unusually broad shoulders are signs of a real male!
The main thing is that your boyfriend does not overdo it and does not cause a fit of uncontrollable laughter instead of delight. A man's gestures when he is in love very often go beyond what is acceptable.
2) Belly
Well, with this part of the body in men, everything is either good or bad - it’s all about the dice.
Owners of a beer belly will try to pull in their dignity in order to look better in the eyes of the ladies, lucky ones with abs will try to flash their six-pack in front of you on the beach or in the gym.
And finally, men without any special achievements in the abdominal area will simply try to focus less attention on it, feeling guilty for not paying due attention to the abs at one time.
3) Hands
First of all, the man's gesticulation is obviously activated. He will want to tell everything as interesting and exciting as possible, which will require all the techniques of his body.
Also, his hands will try to touch you, hug or stroke you as unobtrusively as possible. If your communication is not so close, a man may limit himself to simply approaching you and entering your comfort zone.
For almost all men, hands have a special meaning, because they contain their strength. Having sculpted biceps, your interlocutor will strain them from time to time and take poses in which his achievements in the gym will be clearly visible to you.
4) Legs
This part of the body can tell you a lot about your man's character. Firmly and confidently, like a monolith, the interlocutor standing on his feet speaks of seriousness and determination with his whole appearance.
A man dancing and stepping from foot to foot shows with his movements either uncertainty and frivolity of intentions, or a cheerful and playful mood. But it’s unlikely that he sees a hint of seriousness in your communication.
Also take a look at how wide the man spread his legs. This, like the protruding chest, speaks of his self-confidence.
Watch men on the subway or on the bus. Sometimes their self-confidence is so great that they occupy two or even three places at the same time.
It's funny, but in 2021, the Madrid authorities officially banned men from spreading their legs wide on public transport, so as not to cause discomfort to other passengers.
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By non-verbal signs you can determine how sincere a man is in showing sympathy:
- Glance - a lying person constantly looks away, avoiding direct contact, or, on the contrary, glares at the interlocutor.
- Distraction – immediately after hearing a “tricky” question, the guy has an urgent need to check his phone or go get a drink. So he tries to stall for time, coming up with a suitable answer.
- An asymmetrical smile is a sign of a tense mask of positivity; the eyes remain “cold”.
- Nervous movements - twisting a napkin, playing with cutlery or a cigarette, tapping with fingers.
- Constantly touching your own face, wanting to cover your mouth with your palm, biting your lip.
- A minimum of gestures - the guy is instinctively afraid to reveal the discrepancy between words and the truth.
Let's start with the head
The head and, more importantly, the face are the main “target” for our eyes when talking with a man. We pay attention to his smile, the direction of his gaze, the intonation of his voice... There is so much here that is worth paying attention to, but first things first.
1) Hair
Girls start running their hands through their hair when they see a handsome man. Do you recognize yourself? What about the men themselves?
The stronger sex also wants to look good in your eyes, and therefore you may notice a couple of signs of sympathy associated with his hair.
First of all, before talking, he can look for a reflection and evaluate the general appearance of his hairstyle. If he does not have a C-haircut, but has long, pleasant hair, then during a conversation he can comb it back with his palm from time to time.
2) Eyebrows
A man's eyebrows can become the main sign of emerging sympathy. The thing is that they react to any surge of emotions in a man’s behavior.
In its normal state, a man's face remains almost stone-hard. But being excited, the man himself does not notice that his eyebrows begin to fly up and down, reflecting all his inner experiences.
3) Nose
This part of the body is especially sensitive to excitement, which makes a man breathe faster and harder. Why else would he be worried in a conversation with you, if not because of the sympathy that has arisen?
Pay attention to the man's breathing rate. If he gets hot next to you, you have already set his heart on fire.
4) Eyes
Almost the entire psychology of men’s gestures is manifested in their gaze. If the eyes are the mirror of the soul, then they alone can tell you absolutely all the plans of your man. Attention should be paid to the direction of the gaze and its character.
First, the man will briefly examine your entire body. His gaze can undress you, evaluate you, eat you - it all depends on his desires and plans.
Secondly, he will often look into your eyes. This is not only a sign of interest in the conversation, but also a sign of interest in the interlocutor.
So if you feel that his eyes are looking for something in you, then rest assured that he is looking for hints of reciprocity.
5) Mouth and voice
His lips will dry out and smile more often than usual. Subconsciously, a man will want to kiss you, for which you need to moisten your lips, so watch his manipulations with his tongue.
As for his voice, he will try to use it as beneficially as possible. Pay attention to timbre and intonation: they may be lowered and sound more masculine than usual.
Men in love watch their words, and therefore their voice will be low and their speech slow. The gestures of a guy in love reflect his character and deep feelings.
If you come across a guy who is not entirely confident in himself, then he, on the contrary, may become confused, lose control of his voice and will bore you all evening with his fast chatter in elevated intonations.
6) Head position
When communicating with a woman, a man, if he cares, will want to show his courage and dominance. So, he may lift his nose higher than usual, as if looking down on you.
Again, an insecure guy will hang his head most of the conversation and generally look like a poor puppy who you want to feel sorry for. Every man has his own tactics to gain attention.
Signs of falling in love according to zodiac signs
Depending on their affiliation with a particular zodiac sign, men tend to express sympathy and interest in completely different ways:
- Aries - having caught the love fever, they become extravagant and resemble children. Broad gestures, dashing but meaningless feats, a flurry of emotions betray them completely.
- Taurus are silent about feelings like partisans during interrogation. Acquaintances and colleagues may know that the bull is “in a relationship” no more, while the chosen one herself will still be scratching her head trying to understand whether they are dating or not. The main sign of falling in love is the desire to introduce a girl to her surroundings.
- Geminis become absent-minded and incredibly generous. They are ready to throw all their savings at the feet of their beloved. This sign can hardly be called silent, and under the influence of feelings, the twin talks twice as much, but remains an interesting interlocutor, since he does not talk nonsense.
- Cancer is a sensual, romantic sign, ready to spend all his free time with his chosen one, organizing pleasant surprises for her.
- Leo will bring down a stream of passion and positivity on the girl, trying to demonstrate her best qualities and her own royalty.
- Virgo – clearly catches the line between caring and obsession. Likes to show “everyday” care, preferring actions to words.
- Libra - instantly fills the entire space, but at the same time manages not to choke. They communicate as if the couple have been together for a long time and are actively involved in the girl’s life.
- Scorpio - will break through any walls, seeking favor. He gives in to his feelings 100%, but is demanding in terms of dedication.
- Sagittarius - his cynicism disappears, the motto: “Love is for weaklings” is replaced by an influx of romance.
- Capricorn - loses practicality and common sense, is ready to sacrifice a second job in order to free up time for dating and easily parts with money.
- Aquarius - becomes down-to-earth and responsible, losing its usual lightness.
- Pisces - they look after you beautifully, give compliments, and are not afraid to express true feelings directly.
Men who experience a surge of true love lose their self-control and are more likely to resemble teenagers in love who don’t know what to say or how to approach, rather than experienced ladies’ men.
Body position
To determine whether a man is in love, it is enough to look at the entire pose and the manifestation of individual parts of the body. But here, to clarify, it would be appropriate to take into account the guy’s character and self-esteem.
Confident men with all their gestures and external manifestations say: “Look at me, I am the one you need,” “I am strong, brave, courageous, with me you will feel safe.” Representatives of the stronger sex with high self-esteem always “stretch out” in front of a woman, wanting to appear taller, straighten their shoulders, stick their chest forward, and lift their chin. This is how they try to please the one they are in love with. Psychologists often compare such chosen ones to peacocks, showing off in front of the peahens. The body is always turned towards the beloved, legs are widely spaced. A person who stands firm demonstrates his confidence and determination.
If a guy is not too confident in himself, he will have his own signs by which one can determine whether he is in love. His head will be slightly lowered, his posture will be tense, his shoulders will be tense, and his gestures will be stingy. If you stand opposite each other, the man will not be able to stand calmly and evenly. The legs will dance every now and then, change their point of support, pick the ground, etc.
If a man can show off his figure to his companion, he will do it with great pleasure. He will play with his biceps, expose his torso, show off his abs, wearing a tight T-shirt. He will be happy to help his beloved physically: lift something, move something, catch up with someone, show endurance, etc. Guys who ignore sports will not focus on their appearance, so they suck in their stomach, wear clothes of universal sizes, They prefer quiet leisure to active leisure.
"Now it's my turn"
If you are an egoist or selfish person in life (as you know, all people are more or less like that), then sometimes it is useful to take the initiative. The main thing is that it is unexpected for the partner. Does she wash the dishes every day? Surely, the girl will be pleasantly surprised if you take all the plates and cups into your own hands. Does he go to the car wash every week to clean up the family car? Let this task become yours today. This approach will bring an unusual, new note to the relationship and will have a positive effect on them.
"Take another photo"
This approach, like the previous one, concerns girls. They are known to love being photographed. Give her the luxury of becoming a personal photographer.
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How a woman should behave
The girl’s behavior tactics depend on her personal experiences; you need to act meaningfully so as not to spoil your impression of yourself.
If you don't want a relationship with this person, make it clear right away. You can hint or even tell one of your mutual friends. When a guy keeps trying to win you over, talk to him about it openly.
If you have known a person for a long time and noticed his concern, ask him directly: “What is going on?” Perhaps the gentleman will pluck up courage and confess his feelings to you.
When the sympathy is mutual, the girl needs to respond in kind. Let your man know through nonverbal gestures or words that he can begin to act decisively. You need to provoke him to take the first step. When a guy uses ridicule or rudeness, then you shouldn’t behave that way. Try to change his behavior with compliments and encouragement. Most likely, he will become softer and calmer.
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If, after analyzing the behavior and non-verbal clearly visible signs of a guy's love, you still doubt that you correctly recognized his feelings, ask him delicately. A direct question may scare him away.
Smiley, bouquet, kiss, “Hello”3
It happens that a man falls in love with an image. You have never met, but after seeing you on social networks, he lost sleep and appetite. Naturally, first you should look at the photo; you should be wary if he likes all 2048 pictures of your album (there are plenty of psychologically unhealthy people now). It’s better to close your profile to strangers, add me as a friend, then please. Showing interest, he will start a banal conversation about nature, weather, mood.
Perhaps he will send a drawn bouquet, or send funny pictures every morning. After a while, he will ask for a phone number and make an appointment, although sometimes you come across virtual people who are fans of Internet sex, then you will have to forget about live contact. Find out in advance about his marital status, otherwise, when you come to the park, you can run into trouble, of course, if you have attended self-defense classes, it will not be a problem for you to lay down your gentleman’s wife.
When walking and making first visual contact, you can draw certain conclusions. He came with or without flowers, offered to take him on the arm, or walked a little ahead. Of course, when meeting a person, he is at a loss, if only such a queen was walking next to him, but no one has canceled the norms of etiquette. After a date, it usually becomes clear whether to continue the relationship or not. Because even long-term correspondence does not give a complete picture of a man.
Movement is life!
Are you used to going to the cinema, restaurants and attending all sorts of social events together? This is not bad, but something is missing here. Perhaps skydiving or racing on a go-kart track. Buy a certificate for an extreme pastime - make your date unforgettable.
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"Imagine this"
Sometimes it is very useful to include fantasy, especially in terms of relationships. Even telephone correspondence is suitable for this. For example, you went to the country with your children, and your husband stayed at home due to serious workload. Surely, in the evening he will receive an unexpected and pleasant SMS, in which you will not only ask how you are doing, but also tell him how nice it would be if your husband were nearby. By the way, the details are not superfluous here.
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